“Pick me” girls. It’s a phrase used as an insult. But why is that? I decided to ask Google this question and the answers were exactly what I expected.
AI Overview
The term “pick me girl” can be problematic for a number of reasons, including:
Diminishing personhood
The “pick me girl” archetype can diminish the personhood of individuals, who may have identities and personalities that are a mixture of feminine and masculine.
If you are a man obeying the will of God then you will have masculine personalities. If you are a woman obeying the will of God then you will have feminine personalities. The heart is deceitful, do not follow your heart like the world says. Die to self and and align your will to God’s will.
Reinforcing gender stereotypes
The “pick me girl” archetype can reinforce the idea of the gender binary, which pegs gender expression to biological sex.
Where do I even start with this lol. The idea that your gender identify is different from your biological sex is straight from the devil. It is a lie sent to confuse us just like we saw the serpent do to Eve in the garden. They were cast out of God’s presence because Eve allowed the devil to confuse her about God’s will and plan for what He created.
Inauthentic behavior
The “pick me girl” archetype can involve inauthentic behavior, such as changing values, personality, and who someone is to be picked.
Since God has given men the job description of being the leader of the home and being a spiritual leader, it is perfectly acceptable for a woman to change personality aspects and value aspects to match that of her husband because she is following his lead.
Lack of self-worth
The “pick me girl” archetype can be a sign of a lack of self-worth, as the need to be picked or validated is more about that than anything else.
If we have a certain career in mind, do we study it? Learn to excel in it? Desire to do well? Do we try to stand out from our competition in order to be chosen by a desirable position? Why is the career of wife and motherhood any different? It’s not a lack of self-worth it’s a desire to better ourselves so that we can become the woman that God wants us to be.
Sooo…. when someone calls me a “pick me” girl, these are the questions I have to ask.
Pick me for what exactly?
Pick me to be taken care of?
Pick me to have a man’s protection?
Pick me to spend the days with my babies?
Pick me to not have the burden of the big decisions in life?
Pick me to spend my time working for a man who loves me back?
Yes… please pick me.
Also,
Why is it that when men want to provide so that you can stay home to raise their children and manage their house that they are not considered a “pick me man”? Talk about double standards.